a common question to me at this particular age is of course , about marriage.
    majority of my same aged peers are already married , and has children.

   while I am still , busy enjoying life ; traveling mostly , doing all those things that I like
   to do , and things I have missed during early adolescent years
  ( significant loss of time during 5 1/2 years of MBBS study really ).

  It's not just that I only enjoy my life  and never plan about marriage.
  what I do now , is not solely to fill my time , but also serve as a purpose in exploring
  things to do together as a family in the future.
  ( sparing those extreme activities by the way )
  Also because of this reason i'm always occupied  , and didn't think much
  about relationship , until recently.

the plan about marriage already started since 4-5 years back , when I started to
seriously collecting resources and constructing my future plans , with the foundation
mostly anchored to religion , career and finance. 



   When I talk about finance , it's not to impress people to say ' Hey I'm a doctor
   I have a big house , big car and i'm rich '.
   my topmost concern is stability , not wealth.
   Being from a moderate family , I don't see myself to be a super rich doctor.
   and I don't plan on being one , because I don't like to sacrifice my time only
   for money. not worth it at all.

   marriage is not just a ' one-off to-do ' thing. It need to be sustained.
   and finance is one important factor needed to sustain it.

   Being late than my peers is not a bad thing after all. All these years I observe ,
   and keep observing , I see some successful marriages , but unfortunately
   broken ones too.

   I see  some OSCC ( One Stop Crisis Center ) cases too in
   Emergency Department , and see the increasing numbers of young newly weds
   involved in domestic violence to each other.

  mostly because of lack of planning. because of finance & miscommunication.
  the couple love each other , they are good people individually with a good
  family background , but without strong foundation and planning ,
  the love just fades away. Even my Mom and Dad always argue , and most of the
  time is about finance. And it hurts me , so much.
  we live in the age where everything revolves around money ,
  and we just have to accept it.
  Accept , plan properly and not exploit it.

I don't plan to be rich. I just want a stability.
I work on stability so that my concern & burden about finance is
taken care off early , and I can now focus on the more important  thing  ,
that is :

to SUSTAIN a family , not just to build a family.

and I hope I will never ever say ' I married a wrong person ' within 7 years of marriage.
love is fundamental , but love alone , is not enough.


*because statistically , most couples are divorced within first 7 years of marriage.

    the effect of nicotine was already mentioned in this edition
    of the book , with years and years of thorough experiments
    and investigations .
    cigarette smoking was a concern in that era , while during my time
    now in 2015 , ' vape ' / e-cigarette with unmonitored
    nicotine contents became a phenomenon , with people smoking it
    justifying it as safer than traditional tobacco cigarette.
    for now i don't have a word whether e-cig is truly safe of not ,
    but I assume these e-cig smokers nowdays are voluntarily
    becoming a ' lab-rat ' for the long term studies of the effect
    of e-cig , and studies about it will be published in the
    future edition of the book.




    i got this 1987 Eleventh Edition Harrison's Principles of Internal Medicine
    from a pawn shop in Alor Setar , Kedah for only
    RM35 for a complete set of volume 1 and volume 2.

    a very good book for stargazers.

   so far my favourite Milky Way photos that i took was
   from my Mt Kinabalu trip in 2014 ( click here ) ,
   meteor photo while camping in a forest in
   Uttarakhand , India ( click here )
   and photo of the moon which i took from
   my room in Karad , India ( click here )

   I wish to go to Iceland to watch the Northern Light someday.

    got this from BookXcess.com for only RM9






    The Great LIFE Photographers
    600 pages of dramatic and inspiring photos
    from LIFE Magazine's photographers




 

    one of my dream is to go for a mission , be it
    war-torn countries , nature disasters etc.
    I'll probably be a photojournalist if i'm not a doctor.
    or can I be both?

    experience from Nepal Earthquake ( click here )
    has opened up new perspective for me , as a doctor ,
    and as a photographer as well.

    the author actually have been to all 1000 places
    mentioned in the book.
    unbelievable.

    bought this from www.bookxcess.com for only RM25

    Lonely Planet Trekking in the Indian Himalaya guidebook
    by Garry Weare

   
    Everest : Reflection From The Top
    a gift from a friend Diana Maideen , who went for trekking
    to Everest Base Camp and bought this for me from Kathmandu

  
    quotes from Tenzing Norgay ,
    the first two persons who climbed Everest

    Garry Weare , the guy in the red jacket
  

  in life , I have actually met Garry Weare in person , in
  a forest in India. ( click here )
 while trekking in Uttarakhand ( click here )

   I've been receiving wedding invitations from my peers for almost every
   months in 2013-2014 and the number is still counting.
   in 2013 and first half of 2014 only I had at least 20 same aged friends
   getting / already married.

   peer pressure is on. but I can't do anything because I'm not finished
   with my MBBS yet. and tougher years are coming ahead :
   2 years of housemanship in Malaysia.

  but on the positive side , getting settled down significantly later
  than most peers from another field of profession also means
  that I have more time to prepare and construct the foundation
  for my future.

  at this time being the main focus are :
  preparation for housemanship , finance and Marriage.

  and squeezing some time to achieve more in life , and doing things that I like to do :
  bmx , travel , trekking , adventures , fishing etc.
  because I have sacrificed a lot of things in youth time when
  enrolled into medicine course , and now I have this narrow window period
  to do those things i have missed. not to forget , Haji and Umrah also.

  I'm taking advantage of the vast varieties of books at
  significantly cheap price here in India.